Tips to Create the Lifestyle you Want
Set Reasonable goals
“Reasonable” means exactly that: within reason. Change isn’t going to happen overnight. Sorry. Our culture has grown accustomed to results coming at the click of a button or the touch of an iPhone, but that’s not how change works. Set smaller goals for the month, the week, or even just for one day at a time and grow from there. Soon, the bigger goals you had at first, are the next natural stepping stone as you move forward towards the life you desire.
When you do start making strides on your goals, reward yourself. We are much more driven to continue forward with those goals when there is a prize at the end. It’s just who we are as humans. Plus, congratulating yourself on the small successes brings with it a sense of empowerment, something that will fuel you forward towards those future goals.
Be who you want to be
Yep, you read that right. If you want to create a life that you can be proud of and that makes you happy, then pull a Nike and “just do it.” At the end of the day it’s your choice of who you want to be. That’s not the answer we always want to hear, but it sure is the one we all need. Stop blaming circumstances and make changes today. Proactivity starts with understanding that you always have a choice.
Don’t write your plans with ink
At times, you may come home at the end of a long day to another frozen meal and another night falling asleep on the couch because you were too tired to make it to bed. In those moments, you may think to ourselves, “How did I get here?” and “Whatever happened to those dreams I once had?” It’s easy to fall into hopelessness when our reality does not meet our expectations. That’s why planning every detail of your so-called dream life can be debilitating. True, writing out a plan helps you in making goals, but unless you also include in that plan the unplanned, the spontaneous, and the surprising, you’ll miss out on a lot more. Some of these unplanned opportunities are the greatest adventures in our life. Some may feel like the greatest setbacks. But all can still lead you to a fulfilling life, even if not the one you originally had in mind.
Oh, and don’t follow your passion
Sounds strange, but the advice is very reliable. Mike Rowe, the face of Dirty Jobs, after meeting with workers from sewage plants to roadkill pickup, found out that the happiest people weren’t always the ones who followed their dreams. This seems contradictory from what we’ve heard since we were children, back when we wanted to be astronauts. What Rowe means is, don’t have your heart so set on one thing that you miss out on the opportunities around you.
The life you want is within your grasp, but only if you make the choice to change and to believe that you can. This is more than just a cute sentiment. Test it out. Follow these tips and find out that the life you want is more than just wishful thinking. It soon becomes your reality.